Autism and Sexuality, Teach Your Son
Autism and sexuality – you need to begin a talk with your son at an early age. Your son needs to understand his body, how it functions, as well as his genital area. If you begin early it will not be nearly as difficult to continue such discussions as he grows older. Most fathers begin “the talk” between the ages of nine and 11. However, your son may begin the maturation process at a younger or older age.
It is important for you to have an understanding as to what your son knows. Chances are he has learned some slang and terms from his friends. He might have read some things on his own, or even had a class discussion on sex. It will help you to know what your son knows, such as if he understands such terms as puberty and adolescents. You might choose to use some visuals, such as drawings in a book, to explain the various steps. You should also consider referring to his penis, instead of his sex organ, whatever. Use the correct terminology and you might also want to include slang terms such as dick, cock, and so forth so he can better relate. This is also a good time to discuss the terms of a female’s body.
Autism and Sexuality, His Body Changes
It is important for your son to understand the changes his body will be going through such as growing taller, hair growing around his groin area, and so forth. He must also fully understand that semen will be released from his penis. This also involves explaining that this can happen while he is sleeping. When this happens during the night, some boys, not understanding this aspect of sexuality, do not understand why they are wet. They can easily mistake this discharge as wetting the bed.
You might wish to have discussions with your child’s teacher. S/he will hopefully be able to recommend several books for you to use for discussions with your son. If your boy can see pictures, and you offer him an explanation, then this is an excellent approach to his introduction to manhood.
Your discussion will also include condoms. You should have a couple of unopened condoms. The first one you can open and then apply it to a banana or some other similarly shaped object. The second one, your son can open and go through the whole process.
Sexual Education is Imperative
It is imperative, for the autistic son and daughter, to receive a variety of sexual education lessons. You realize, that this is not a comprehensive guideline for your child’s sexual education, and it is important for you, as their parent, to determine what you want to include. Instruction also depends on the ability level of your child.
Next, we are going to explore sexuality activity.
Autism and Sexual Activity
It is difficult to determine the actual number of autistic people who engage in some type of sexual activity. This is not like taking a polling of Republicans and Democrats involving any specified election, to determine who their candidate will be. Nor is it like you can ask your son or daughter, in many situations, anyway, if s/he masturbates or is s/he sexually active with a partner.
In Part 4 we are going to review some statistics and try to get a clearer picture and a better understanding about the sexual life of those with the disability known as autism.
Until next time, have a good day and take great care of yourself.